By Gift
My name is Gift Constantine Kaputolo, and I am writer. Most of what I write, is essentially garbage. If I don’t write, the garbage may decompose in my head.
I would bore you with a lengthy introduction, but I would rather let you get to know me through my writing. I felt like sharing a piece about orgasms, as a way of introducing myself, and my writing, to you.
ORGASM (R18)
“What is premature ejaculation? Some men ejaculate before entering their woman’s vagina. Others ejaculate after ten minutes of sexual intercourse. What matters is not when you ejaculate, but how deeply you are able to commune in love, with no boundaries, through the form of sexual embrace. If your ejaculation signs the end to your session of loving before both you and your woman have fully opened yourselves, then your ejaculation is premature.”
~David Deida
Bad sex is mechanical. Bad sex is selfish. Thrusting in and out until your rod leaks of milky tears… Most men are responsible for bad sex.
Most men start masturbating in their teenage years. The onset of beating one’s meat is usually unplanned. You find yourself rubbing the tip of your manhood and bang – a tingling sensation runs down your spine. And you start thinking – damn, I got to know myself more. And then it begins… Slowly, the act metamorphosizes into a daily routine. Slowly, it becomes an addiction….
Masturbating over and over ends up conditioning your body and nervous system to a habitual sequence: genital stimulation, mental fantasy, building up tension, and then busting a nut.
Teenage masturbation is essentially an exercise in fantasy, done alone, without much love or even human intimacy. By the time most men are having sex with women, they repeat the same sequence they learned while masturbating. Sex becomes a road toward ejaculation, a road paved with internal imagery, self-enclosure, and the desire to release tension.
This sequence deprives women of mind -blowing orgasms. It is a recipe for fake orgasms.
You see, for most men, an orgasm entails the spewing out of energy through the genitals. And then, drifting into sleep. For most, it’s like game, a battle of some sort. Intense build up, ploughing and wham!!
An orgasm is either depleting or rejuvenating. Immediately drifting to sleep after sex- depleting orgasm. For a rejuvenating orgasm- your body gets electrocuted with an inexplicable energy. You feel an inexplicable bodily bliss and emotional openness, far beyond the quick pleasure and depleted peace.
To realize the full potential of sex, you must learn how to recondition your body and nervous system. You must learn how to unhabitualize the mechanics of your ejaculation and convert your orgasm into a massive profusion of energy which deepens, not ends, the lovemaking session. The first step is undoing the habits you learned while masturbating as a teenager.
Anyway, we will talk about that later. Some people call me Gifiti, and I love to talk about what most people are not as comfortable talking about. Join me on this site as I delve into uncensored topics.
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